Everyone loves a good romance story. Even guys can be suckers for a bit of romance, even if they don’t want to admit it. If you’ve come looking for romance; for red roses, candlelit ceremonies and ‘I love you’s’ written in flower petals, I’m sorry my sweet but you’ve come to the wrong place. The story of how I found the love of my life is much more reality than fairytale fiction and I wouldn’t have it any other way. First, let’s go back in time to the fun age range of 16-20.
When I was younger, all I wanted was a boyfriend. I was always the single one of the group and it was an ongoing joke that I would be forever single, or that I’d convince my best friend at the time and her boyfriend to write me into their wedding vows so I was a permanent but loved third wheel. I’d always had little flings with guys but nothing ever eventuated from them and I was convinced I wasn’t good/pretty/skinny/funny/blonde/whatever enough.
Prior to Jordan, aka the love of my life, I’ve been in love twice. Both times with people who didn’t see my worth, made me feel like s**t and both ended somewhat badly. One of those endings was when I had my ‘f**k it’ moment where I upped and left beautiful, sunny Cairns and moved to Melbourne, alone and sick of being that single person with no direction in life. My years of seeking someone to love me for me had left me with pretty low self esteem and not a whole lot of self respect. But before I left Cairns, something happened that I will never forget; I saw Jordan for the first time.
It was after a night out that I saw him at a house we’d all gone back to for more drinks (#healthy) and even though everyone was looking a little worse for wear - Jordan and I included - I could not help but think ‘I need to be with that human!’. Jordan and I had a mutual friend who happened to be Jordan’s house mate and the next time I saw this friend I bailed him up saying ‘YOU DIDN’T TELL ME YOUR HOUSEMATE WAS HOT!!’ and other obscenities about how much I wanted to marry him… But I was leaving Cairns, so in my mind, that was that.
When I moved to Melbourne, for the first time in my life I was doing something for me so everything that I did was for me. Trips to the markets, buying flowers, watching tv on the couch; it was all for me. I was no longer desperately seeking a companion and instead was putting myself first and growing. I had this overwhelming sense of drive, pride and new found love for my independence that I wasn’t really thinking of boys. Although Jordan did pop into my head a few times, for all of one or two fleeting seconds.
Fast forward six months of me living in Melbourne (so around New Years) and Jordan’s housemate from Cairns was living with me for a few weeks when he first moved to Melbourne. He told me one day the Jordan was coming to Melbourne for New Years and that we should all go out together on NYE… Part of my brain was like ‘heck yes we will all go out together on New Years and he will love me and I will love him and we will get married and have babies’ and the other part of my brain was like ‘ehhh, this will be fun but I don’t expect anything out of it’. Without going into the nitty gritty; Jordan was my New Years kiss who stayed with me for the next four days and neither of us wanted our super long sleepover to end.
Jordan went back to Cairns but came back down to Melbourne a few times in the next three months. We spoke on the phone everyday and he eventually moved to Melbourne to pursue his career as a pilot. I like to tell people he moved here for me to stir him up, but I guess having a career maybe had something to do with it (hehe). We started living together pretty much straight away because Jordan’s living situation wasn’t really working for him and we both agreed that if it wasn’t working then that’s fine; there was no pressure from either of us and that’s how it’s always been. We’ve just done us and not cared about what other people think.
We have now been together officially for almost three years and I can honestly say that I think we’ll be together forever. Jordan is the most kind human being I know and in the last three years he has taught me so much about myself that I can’t even begin to put into words (but for the sake of the blog, I'll try). He has taught me to value myself, to do what I love, to fill my life with the right people and get rid of toxic people, to chase my dreams, to not be too hard on myself and that you should always be able to laugh at yourself. He is wise beyond his years and I can’t believe I found someone so supportive, loving and makes me laugh everyday so early in my life. When I told him I was writing this blog post and that the message that I want to get across isn’t just telling our story, he told me to write down the next thing that he said:
‘You’ve gotta fall in love with yourself before anyone can fall in love with you. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you?' As I started telling him that I couldn't agree more, he cut me off and told me he wasn't finished.... 'You have to love yourself so much that you’re overflowing with love, so that you’ve got enough love to love someone else.’
These words from my darling boy are the message I want to convey with this post. Yes, this is our story (squished into a few hundred words), but what I want you to take from it is exactly what Jordan said.
Stop looking for love. Take time to fall in love with yourself, to know who you truly are and what matters most to you. The right person will show up randomly at a time when you least expect it and if they are perfect for you, then you will be together. Don’t force things. Go with the flow. Love yourself, flaws and all before you start trying to tip from an empty cup to fill a void. This is how I met the love of my life.
Have you ever met one of those people who, with every word they speak, glow and are full of happiness, love and light? The kind of person who just seems to have everything in the world and more and all you can think is ‘damn, I wish I was like that/had that/could be that!’? Well I’m here to tell you that you can be that person. You can be the person who has positivity, happiness and gratitude pouring out of every little cell you have. All you need to do is master some self-loving practices… and if you’re wondering how on Earth to do that, don’t worry, this whole post is about helping you do exactly that.
Self-love is something that is becoming more and more popular these days and I am absolutely loving it! I love that there is more of a focus on learning to love yourself, be proud of who you are and not be embarrassed to admit it.
Self-love is definitely something that takes some getting used to because sadly, somewhere along the path of evolution, we humans have been brought up to put others first, be embarrassed/ashamed of our flaws and to think it is selfish or conceited to love yourself or do anything for yourself. Well, that’s all a bunch of BS and I want you to stop thinking that way right now. Here are my tips and tricks to being a self-loving angel!
1. Know your values, like, really, really know your values
Being someone who loves themselves (in the soul nourishing way not the stuck-up way) involves really knowing who you are, what you believe in and what you value. Knowing your values will help you work out what it is that will fill your cup instead of empty it. For example, some of my highest values are independence, knowledge, health and being in nature. So, for me, some of my favourite self-love rituals/practices/whatever’s involve those things: solo brunch dates, yoga outdoors, having an intelligent conversation with someone and learning new things. If you can do more things that make you feel full instead of doing things for others or because you think it’s the right thing to do when maybe it isn’t in-line with your values, how you feel about yourself will exponentially improve on the daily.
Getting to know yourself does take time and knowing your true values will as well. Don’t rush to think of things you value because you feel you have to have values, or compare your values with others, you are you, not anyone else and that is the most amazing thing.
2. Get rid of anything toxic
Have you ever had one of those ‘friends’ or boyfriends/girlfriends who (you may not even realise yet) drains your soul, makes you feel sh*t about yourself and/or isn’t in line with your values? Give them the flick ASAP! The same goes for toxic habits, behaviours etc. Anything that makes you question that you are an amazing, talented, gorgeous human who has everything to give this world, then it’s time to unapologetically say ‘see-ya later’.
By doing point number one, you’ll work out what is really important to you and what isn’t. Sometimes this means culling some toxic things/people/behaviours from your life and putting yourself first. Once you’ve worked out what you like/value and what you don’t like/value you can get into point three which I think is lots of fun!
3. Compliment yourself on the daily
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: pep talking yourself works wonders! I do it all the time… ‘Georgia, even though sometimes your hair doesn’t cooperate and is a little on the crazy side, it looks amazing today!’… ‘Alright Georgia, your shift is going to be hectic but you already know that you can do it so don’t you dare even think for a second that you can’t’… ‘You did such a good job today and you should proud soul sista!!!’ You get the idea.
Start getting in the habit of recognizing and really focusing on the positives of you. You might start by telling yourself in the mornings one thing you like about your appearance, one thing you like about your personality and something that you’re excited about doing today. Or, you could spend a few minutes at the end of the day thinking about the things that you did well that day. This can be a hard one to master because it’s so easy to focus on the negatives but once you start focusing on the good things about you, you’ll be loving yourself sick before you know it.
4. Treat yourself like you treat your best friend
We all have someone in our life – a best friend, sister, partner, mother – who we think the absolute world of. If they ever put themselves down, think they’re not good enough or are focusing on the tiniest, insignificant negative thing about themselves, we are so quick to tell them to shut up because they’re wrong. They are (in our eyes) so beautiful, caring, intelligent and soul filling that we can’t even begin to understand how they could think of themselves so negatively…
You should look at yourself like that. You should catch yourself when you’re thinking negatively, stop your mean mind in its tracks, tell it to shut up and remind yourself something positive about you. After all, you are indescribably amazing!
5. Make time for self-love practice
One of my goals for this year is making time for weekly self-love practice because it’s so easy to put yourself last when things get busy. Like I said earlier, I love doing things like taking myself out to brunch, spending some time in the garden or running a candle-lit bath with some nice music on. These are my weekly self-love practices, but I also do little self-love things throughout the day (hello point three). Writing in your diary/planner/schedule self-love time will keep you more accountable and hopefully help you give yourself some regular, well-deserved self-lovin’ time.
6. Be unapologetically you
This is probably one of the most important points, if not the most important.
We all have our little quirks; our things that we think people shouldn’t know about because we think they’re weird or embarrassing. These things, the things that make you different to the next person, these are life’s greatest gifts and you should embrace them with everything you’ve got.
I used to be embarrassed telling people that I like gardening more than I like going out for expensive cocktails. Even to this day sometimes, for a split second, I get embarrassed telling people that I created a blog and Instagram because I get scared they will judge me. But all it takes is a few extra seconds of talking to my brain for me to be like ‘oh helllllll no you are not embarrassed of your hard work and passion, let it shine baby!’ and then I’m all good. Embrace who you are and learn to love your individuality because my darlings, life is way too short not to absolutely love yourself, flaws and all.
If, after reading the above six points you’re thinking ‘self-love is not my thing’, please don’t think that, just take the key message from this post and tailor your self-love practice to you. Don’t think that self-love is just about talking to yourself and trying to be happy 24/7, self-love is about doing things that put you first, that make you feel good about yourself. Buying yourself flowers, going to the gym, eating a home cooked meal, spending time with your family, getting your nails done, meditating, having a glass of the expensive wine at dinner, stretching, painting, watching your fave movie, these are all things that can be considered self-love practices if they’re on your terms and you are thinking of yourself when you do them, not of someone else.
Self-love is putting you first, becoming your own best friend and celebrating every inch of your existence for the phenomenon that it is. Now go and fall in love with yourself my darlings, it is the greatest thing you’ll ever do.
For those of you who have followed me for a while, you will know that I love a bargain. I don’t see the point in over spending when it’s unnecessary, BUT I also don’t understand compromising your health for the sake of a few dollars.
Because of this outlook that I have, I have somewhat perfected the art of shopping to a budget whilst still eating healthy, nourishing food. I will share this wisdom with you in the form of my top eight tips to shopping savvy without compromising on health.
If you follow me on Instagram you will know I am nourish bowl obsessed. I normally have them for breakfast, sometimes lunch and, you guessed it, sometimes even for dinner. I love them because you can put basically anything in them so you don’t have to be super organized to make them. They’re so easy to put together and they’re obvs delicious. I have put together a list of my go to ingredients, how I prepare these ingredients and some other ideas that you could try.
If you make a nourish bowl and want to show me, use the hashtag #hlhnourishbowl on Instagram and I’ll be able to check out your masterpiece!
It’s that time of year again! The time when people everywhere start saying ‘December? Already?!’ and have flashbacks of last years Christmas that literally feels like it was two months ago. The time of year when you get to see your family and usually have to deal with that one relative who always gets too festive and embarrasses themselves. Or worse, embarrasses you.
The time of year when you have to buy presents for people that you don’t really know so you don’t know what to get them and they end up with something super random like a towel from you. The time of year when there is more naughty food and alcohol than you could poke a stick at… the naughty food and alcohol that you’ve been so good at staying away from. This post is about said naughty food and alcohol.
I give you: How to enjoy the silly season without getting too silly.
Composting… you may have heard the term, but wondered what the process really entails. There are many different ways to compost, some quite easy and efficient. Compost is a natural process where organic materials break down to create a nutrient-rich soil, perfect for growing fruits, vegetables, flowers and other foliage.
Organic materials might sound like a vague term, but if you think about it, you’ll realize you have organic materials all over your house. Anything that decomposes, from a banana peel to old newspapers, can be part of your compost pile. Whether you’re an avid gardener or an enthusiastic newbie, composting is a great way to increase the richness of your soil and reduce your carbon footprint. The process for creating compost for your home garden includes:
In this guide, we’ll walk you through the basics of composting, its benefits and the different ways you can create nourishing soil for your lawn and plants.
I have been on the pill for around six years and to be entirely honest, I wish I never went on it. Don’t get me wrong, the pill has made my life very convenient and I’ve never had any real problems with side effects or anything, but there are definitely things I would do differently if I had my time over. I wanted to write this blog post to explain why I personally have decided to get off the pill, despite being in a long-term relationship and having no issues (kind of) with the pill.
My journey with the pill first started when I was in high school. I went on the pill for contraceptive reasons and was first put on Monofeme. Being on this particular pill lasted me about six days because it instantly put me in this major depressive mood. Like major, major depression. So, I went back to my doctor and explained my mood and he changed me to Levlen ED.
Since being on Levlen ED I’ve never had any problems with mood, skin, weight gain or anything like that. The only thing that really changed in my body (externally) was my boobs grew and let’s be honest, what young woman doesn’t want some free extra boobies?! So I was pretty happy with my decision to go on the pill now that I had bigger boobs and could control when I got my period. Now, six or so years later, hindsight has kicked in and I wish I could tell my younger self not to go on it (or at least, not rush to go on it like I did). Here’s why.
First of all, no doctor or anyone for that matter ever educated me about the risks involved with the pill. It wasn’t until being on the pill for about three years that I found out (through a friend, not even a medical professional) that smoking and being on the pill is a massive no-no and that you are at an increased risk of blood clots and therefore should protect yourself by doing things like always walking around when you catch a flight anywhere and not sitting down for extended periods of time. Like hellllllooooo doctors, do you not think these are two MAJOR things I should have known?! Imagine if I didn’t do anything to protect myself against clots (which I didn’t) and then one flicked off, went to my brain and I had a stroke…
The pill impacts on gut health as well. If you don't know by now, I and many others are big advocates for gut health, so when I found out that the pill impacts the levels of yeast in your intestines and inhibits the intestines ability to absorb nutrients from your food, I actually felt bad for doing this to my bod for so many years - cue sad music and tears for all the good bacteria my bod has potentially lost. Then we’ve got the increased risk of certain cancers, heart attack and infertility. Three things that would change your life indefinitely, but let’s not tell a 17 ish year old girl about these. Are you kidding me?!
You might be thinking ‘as if she didn’t know about these, everyone knows this stuff’, but I can assure you none of these risks were stressed to me and this is NOT common knowledge to everyone out there. Now that I am in the health care industry and have studied for three years, I have a better understanding of finding reliable information and making informed decisions myself. This is what has brought me to the decision to stop taking the pill.
Side note - I actually stopped taking the pill earlier this year and had the intention to give my body a break and go back on it once I got my period back. Well, that failed. I waited three months for a period and nothing came. I wasn’t very educated about natural alternatives to the pill then so I panicked and went back on the pill. But since then, I have not been able to get the effects of the pill on my body out of my mind. I no longer want to interfere with my hormones and mess with my body for the sake of convenience.
With all of that said, I guess you can say my decision to stop taking the pill is solely health based. I felt a bit hypocritical spending all this time and effort working on my health with better food choices and exercise, but not changing the fact that every single day, I am messing with my hormones with an artificial pill. I am all about loving and caring for my body inside and out, and as the pill does not fit with this at all it was time to say see ya later pill!
I want to stress that I am not pushing my decision on anyone. This is a personal decision. I want to tune into my body more and treat it the way it should be treated, naturally. If you’re wondering about what natural contraceptive options I will be trying, I am going to trial a few different apps to track my fertility. Believe it or not, tracking has been proven to be as effective as the pill (if done correctly) and it allows you to tune in with your body and really understand what is happening with your body. I can imagine the next few months will be rough… my body is going to be freaking out trying to work out how to regulate my hormones again but I am going to do my best to trust the process, trust my body and remember why I have decided to do this. For my health, happiness and my future Happy Little Humans.
Please feel free to comment on this post or contact me here or on my Instagram and we can talk all things 'the pill'.
Getting in the recommended daily intake of vegetables can be a challenge, especially when our meals tend to be based around carbs or meat. Time also seems to be another reason people seem to fall shy of a good amount of veg per day. But vegetables are so good for our bodies that we really should make it a priority not just to meet these recommendations, but to exceed them!
I know that our busy lives make this more than a challenge, but if you can even get just one or two extra serves of veg in a day, your body will love you for it. Here’s four easy ways to get in that extra veg.
As promised in my initial kombucha posts, the time has now come to write about flavoring this amazing beverage! Flavoring kombucha is easy – you just add the flavor at the same time as bottling and leave the bottles out of the fridge for 7-14 days before enjoying over some ice. I have tried a few different flavors and techniques to flavoring so here they are…
You’ve made your first batch of delicious, nutritious, warming bone broth. You’ve divided it up into smaller portions, ready to be used for… um. Okay so you don’t know what to use your bone broth in. That’s okay, because I’m here to help (Georgia saves the day yet again!).